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Date Fairness.com Resource Read it at: Oct 14, 2012 Christian Group Finds Gay Agenda in an Anti-Bullying Day
QUOTE: The program, started 11 years ago by the Southern Poverty Law Center and now in more than 2,500 schools, was intended as a way to break up cliques and prevent bullying. But this year, the American Family Association, a conservative evangelical group, has called the project “a nationwide push to promote the homosexual lifestyle in public schools”...
New York Times Feb 16, 2012 Shocker: Facebook Users Hate Surprise Photo Tagging
QUOTE: nearly all Facebook users think it's rude when someone posts a photo or video of them without asking their permission first. In the survey of more than 800 Facebook users, 83 percent of respondents said it's just "common courtesy" to ask permission before posting someone else's photo or video online.
PC Magazine Jul 25, 2011 Can you get fired for cursing at work?
QUOTE: While it's commonplace to curse once in a while and may even help you build a bond with co-workers, there's a fine line to when and how you curse...Companies where employees are constantly in front of customers are especially harsh when it comes to foul language
CNN (Cable News Network) Jun 19, 2011 Miss Manners: Musician’s admirers are sometimes out of line
QUOTE: It never fails that at least one individual (or couple, and sometimes more), usually louder and more aggressive, will “break in line,” very quickly, to say something to me while I’m talking to or signing the CD of the person who’s been waiting in line. It seems impossible to ignore these interlopers, but I always feel guilty giving them this attention, because it extends even more the wait period for those still in line.
Washington Post Apr 23, 2011 Picking On the Competition
QUOTE: It’s unseemly and makes The Times, which is viewed as journalism’s top dog, look like a bully. It’s clear, as well, that some readers expect The Times to apply the same laser-like focus to itself, which doesn’t seem to happen much.
New York Times Feb 27, 2011 Insulting Chuck Lorre, Not Abuse, Gets Sheen Sidelined
QUOTE: So the message from CBS and Warner Brothers seems clear: abuse yourself and the women around you to your heart’s content, but do not attack the golden goose.
New York Times Feb 09, 2011 Charges Against Muslim Students Prompt Debate Over Free Speech
QUOTE: When administrators at the University of California, Irvine, decided to suspend the Muslim Student Union for a quarter over the disruption of a speech last year by the Israeli ambassador to the United States, most thought the latest controversy on campus had ended.....[prosecution] reignited campus debate about the event but have also prompted a feisty argument about the role of free speech on a college campus...
New York Times Dec 28, 2010 Making It Clear That a Clear Parking Space Isn’t
QUOTE: Though not unique to Boston — Chicago, Philadelphia and Pittsburgh are among the other cities that embrace it — space-saving after snowstorms has an impassioned history here, especially in scrappy, densely populated South Boston. When snow puts parking spots at a premium, as the blizzard that just left 18 inches of snow here did, snatching someone’s marked space can lead to hurled insults, slashed tires or worse...
New York Times Oct 26, 2010 Hands-on airport searches: National rollout of invasive pat-downs this week
QUOTE: Airline passengers nationwide will be subjected to new aggressive and controversial body searches likened to “foreplay” pat-downs under the expansion of a program tested at Logan International Airport.
Boston Herald Jun 09, 2010 The Risks of Parenting While Plugged In
QUOTE: Sherry Turkle, director of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology Initiative on Technology and Self, has been studying how parental use of technology affects children and young adults. After five years and 300 interviews, she has found that feelings of hurt, jealousy and competition are widespread.
New York Times Mar 31, 2010 Imaginary Chats and Texts When a Quick Getaway Is in Order
QUOTE: As a group, these [iPhone] apps are puerile at worst, clever at best, and generally worth right around the buck or two you spend for a few minutes of fun. But in social situations where you are actually trying to shake someone, some of these apps may be worth far more.
New York Times Oct 07, 2009 Group Resists Korean Stigma for Unwed Mothers
QUOTE: Yet each year, [South Korean] social pressure drives thousands of unmarried women to choose between abortion, which is illegal but rampant, and adoption, which is considered socially shameful but is encouraged by the government. The few women who decide to raise a child alone risk a life of poverty and disgrace.
New York Times Sep 16, 2009 Panhandling bans hurt some fundraisers
QUOTE: Communities seeking to prevent panhandlers from venturing into streets are stirring controversy with bans that also prevent people from approaching vehicles to ask for charitable donations.
USA TODAY Sep 03, 2009 Swine Flu Upsets Rituals of Greeting
QUOTE: the era of swine flu poses the thorny challenge of how to express cordiality, friendship, even love — while staying, as the authorities recommend, at least three to five feet away from anyone who coughs, sneezes or might otherwise show signs of infection with the H1N1 virus.
New York Times Aug 18, 2009 Family Code Gets Nudge, but Women Seek a Push (Tangier Journal)
QUOTE: Despite an important reform of Morocco’s family code in 2004, pressed upon a reluctant Parliament by the young king, Muhammad VI, sex outside marriage is not recognized in Morocco, any more than homosexuality is.
New York Times Nov 20, 2008 Queuing psychology: Can waiting in line be fun?
QUOTE: Fair play -- or the idea of first come, first served -- is at the heart of most successful queues. It's one of the reasons most banks, airlines and fast-food restaurants have switched from several open lines that force customers to choose the line they think is moving fastest, to a single serpentine line, which guarantees first come, first served, Larson said. Violation of fair play can lead to "queue rage."
CNN (Cable News Network) Nov 14, 2008 We're divorced -- you're not my friend
QUOTE: The case files of divorce simmer with the resentment created when an ex-spouse constantly pleads for favors. The routine exchanges of marriage (Will you fix the sink? Lend me $20? Pick up the kids?) can become bitter boundary issues if they continue after the divorce.
CNN (Cable News Network) Nov 11, 2008 Are you rude? Maybe you should think again
QUOTE: Dr. Forni says modern society is structured in a way that actually amplifies and encourages incivility. "We are stressed, we are fatigued and we are in an anonymous environment. Stress and anonymity are two very, very common causes of rudeness," he says.
CNN (Cable News Network) Jul 02, 2008 When You’re All Dressed Up, You Need Somewhere to Go (Diners Journal)
QUOTE: And I have a huge problem with restaurants that enforce their dress codes inconsistently, as I’ve observed on this blog. Fairness lies not in abandoning dress codes and other rules. Fairness lies in making sure everybody plays by the rules that have been established. And too often I’ve sat in a jackets-required dining room and noticed a male diner nearby without a jacket. That steams me.
New York Times May 05, 2008 Dartmouth's 'Hostile' Environment
QUOTE: an Ivy League professor threatening to sue her students because, she claims, their "anti-intellectualism" violated her civil rights...some of her students were so unreceptive of "French narrative theory" that it amounted to a hostile working environment. She is also readying lawsuits against her superiors...
Wall Street Journal, The (WSJ) Jan 23, 2008 Va. Student's Snow-Day Plea Triggers an Online Storm
QUOTE: ...a phone call to a Fairfax County public school administrator's home last week about a snow day...has taken on a life of its own. Through the ubiquity of Facebook and YouTube, the call has become a rallying cry for students' First Amendment rights, and it shows that the generation gap has become a technological chasm.
Washington Post Nov 28, 2007 A Hoax Turned Fatal Draws Anger but No Charges
QUOTE: In response to the events, the local Board of Aldermen on Wednesday unanimously passed a measure making Internet harassment a misdemeanor punishable by up to a $500 fine and 90 days in jail.
New York Times Nov 26, 2007 Law protects church shock tactics, experts say
QUOTE: The jury said the church violated the family's right to privacy, and Snyder hoped the verdict would curtail the church's screeds. Constitutional law experts say the verdict probably violated the church's First Amendment right of free speech and possibly their right to freely exercise their religion.
USA TODAY Nov 25, 2007 The Truth About Lying: Our Lives Are Filled With Untruths. But Why Do We Lie, And How Can We Tell When Others Are Full of It?
QUOTE: So many reasons to lie. So many ways to lie. How do we cut through the thick crust of deception....When it comes to teaching the art of detecting deception, Ekman is the man. His 1985 book "Telling Lies" is a benchmark work on the topic, and he has tested the lie-detection ability of more than 12,000 people...
Washington Post Nov 04, 2007 Devices Enforce Cellular Silence, Sweet but Illegal
QUOTE: The technology is not new, but overseas exporters of jammers say demand is rising and they are sending hundreds of them a month into the United States — prompting scrutiny from federal regulators and new concern last week from the cellphone industry. The buyers include owners of cafes and hair salons, hoteliers, public speakers, theater operators, bus drivers and, increasingly, commuters on public transportation.
New York Times Oct 24, 2007 Effort to Censure Lawmaker for a Comment Falls Short
QUOTE: Representative Pete Stark, Democrat of California, escaped a censure Tuesday for incendiary remarks he made last week about President Bush and the war in Iraq.
New York Times Sep 30, 2007 Enough Said? Probably Not. Free-Speech Issues Once Again Testing University President
QUOTE: The event has drawn attention to Bollinger's record at Columbia, where issues related to Israel and the Middle East have exploded in controversy in nearly every one of his five years as president.
Washington Post Sep 27, 2007 Public affection: How much is too much?
QUOTE: Though Gere's behavior was tame by American standards, it was deemed obscene in India, where such public displays of affection (also known as PDA) are frowned upon....Marguerite Salmon, a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Francisco, outlines a three-step plan for being in a relationship with someone whose sensitivity to PDA is not in sync with yours.
CNN (Cable News Network) Jun 27, 2007 The Golden Rule, Slightly Tarnished: Sometimes a Good Samaritan Expects a Handout in Return
QUOTE: This is the unspoken agreement between losers and finders, the Good Samaritan pact that provides a flicker of hope when we misplace the pocket-size items that we rely on to navigate our days. But...Some people exploit their roles as finders to make a quick buck.
Washington Post Jun 17, 2007 City Moves to Ban Restaurant Smoking
QUOTE: the Alexandria City Council voted unanimously yesterday to use its zoning powers to ban smoking in restaurants, an unusual tactic opponents said would lead to costly lawsuits.
Washington Post Jun 07, 2007 Stanford Professor Slams Office Bullies, Work Jerks
QUOTE: ROBERT SUTTON, a professor of management science and engineering at Stanford...ministers to victims of workplace bullies and the companies that harbor them.
Smart Money Mar 04, 2007 The Ethicist: The Phone Ranger
QUOTE: My husband bought a device that can block the signals of cellphone users who annoy him, although he knows such gizmos are illegal.... Unless you promised your first customer an exclusive on this item, there is no legal barrier to selling to the second. But ethics sets a more stringent standard.
New York Times Jan 18, 2007 Help, I’m Surrounded by Jerks
QUOTE: He and others say that rather than seeing the office curmudgeon or the post office nitpicker as the sum of their most wretched behavior, it is better to think of them as full people, even to empathize with them, if only to maintain some sense of control.
New York Times Sep 10, 2006 Fired Via E-Mail, And Other Tales Of Poor Exits
QUOTE: The RadioShack layoff has received wide (not-so-positive) attention. "We realize that to some people notification by email may seem cold and impersonal....privacy was on the company's mind. "Our challenge was this: In an open office environment such as ours, what is the best way to invite someone to this kind of meeting while respecting and preserving their privacy and dignity?"
Washington Post May 31, 2006 On the Menu: Too Much Info
QUOTE: ...the reason [the waiter-Ed.] wished us health was that his father had just died of cancer...we were dining out in part to have a pleasant diversion from our health concerns...
Washington Post Feb 22, 2006 Lowery Defends His Criticism of Bush at Coretta King Funeral
QUOTE: Responding to charges that he used Coretta Scott King's funeral to mount a partisan attack on President Bush, the Rev. Joseph E. Lowery said yesterday that his conservative critics do not understand black funerals...
Washington Post Feb 01, 2006 Splitting the Bill: A Great Divide
QUOTE: No matter how often Miss Manners points out that the decorous method is to take turns being the host (this had to be done coyly under the old system -- the lady offered a home-cooked meal or claimed to have been given theater tickets -- but it was done), some ladies insist on splitting every cost, while others never reciprocate. And some married couples never merge financially.
Washington Post Jan 24, 2006 Bill to Quiet Ballfields Creates an Uproar: Va. Youth Leagues Quickly Mobilize Against Constraints on Playing Hours
QUOTE: ...a collision between sports leagues and homeowners increasingly at odds over how best to use the suburbs' shrinking share of green space. It's also a clash over the democratic process and whether the rights of one individual should be heard over the louder voices of the majority.
Washington Post Jan 15, 2006 Readers: Feeding Neighbors, Hiring Friends
QUOTE: ..."friends-and-family discount may be appropriate for corporations seeking to generate incremental income from an established infrastructure, but not for someone who is self-employed and has a limited number of hours per week from which to generate income."
Wall Street Journal, The (WSJ) Nov 23, 2005 How to Stuff A Gobbler
QUOTE: This year my husband's family is coming over again...as selfish as it sounds, I don't want to share leftovers.
Washington Post Nov 13, 2005 Demonizing the Customer: Some Company Help Staffs Disdain the People They Serve
QUOTE: rage consumers increasingly feel toward inept and uncaring customer service -- and now vice versa.
Washington Post Nov 08, 2005 Times in Settlement Talks Over Sachs
QUOTE: The New York Times is in settlement talks with the Newspaper Guild over the case of Susan Sachs....any type of dishonesty--lying, stealing, etc.--can be cause for termination. But when she was dismissed, Sachs publicly disputed the charges and said she had taken a polygraph test and passed.
New York Observer Nov 06, 2005 The Sounds of Silence
QUOTE: ...the child is right there while being spoken about. Thus the parent who is asked impertinent questions has a triple etiquette problem: How to stop this insulting nosiness, how to keep it from upsetting the child and how to teach the child to deal with the same problem on his own, presuming that the rude are forever among us.
Washington Post Nov 02, 2005 Can You Hear Me Now?
QUOTE: ...the urge to attend to the telephone is the only force on Earth stronger than greed....That it is rude to ignore those in person in favor of voices from the distance does not seem to make much of an impression...
Washington Post Oct 26, 2005 The Thread That Unraveled Segregation: The Thread That Unraveled Segregation
QUOTE: 'It was no secret that a transportation boycott would happen in Montgomery, Hackney says. And yet, no one knew it would be Rosa Parks. No one knew what day -- Monday? Thursday? -- she'd refuse to get up so a white man could have her seat. "The day she sat down and didn't get up was a decision she herself had made,"'
Washington Post Oct 26, 2005 Faint Praise
QUOTE: Are you suggesting that since she has waited 10 years for a husband and children already, she might as well wait another year so that you can have the spotlight all to yourself?
Washington Post Oct 19, 2005 R$VP
QUOTE: It is indeed common for charities to think that the way to thank their donors is to give them another opportunity to give....It is as if your nephew thanked you for giving him a bicycle by suggesting that next you should give him a motorcycle...
Washington Post Oct 12, 2005 A Lecture, But No Class
QUOTE: ...it is decorum that allows dissent to be aired, and it is your job to ensure both. Academic lectures should always allow debate, and decorum should always prevail, there as elsewhere.
Washington Post Sep 11, 2005 An Accounting of Etiquette
QUOTE: On their way to bankruptcy, they appeal for an etiquette judgment. Parents who are living on Social Security ask if it is true, as their daughter the lawyer tells them, that etiquette expects them to pay for her second dream wedding.
Washington Post Aug 28, 2005 Do Not Pardon the Interruption
QUOTE: Using a new method of achieving a rude aim does not catapult you into etiquette-free territory. Critiquing an event while it is happening is rude under long-existing rules.
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